A while back I was in a gathering of people I didn’t know very well. I don’t want to belabor this post with unnecessary details, so I guess the best way to describe our conversation was that we were trying to come to consensus about partnering with other individuals for a rather life changing experience. In the discussion, there was much talk about disliking certain aspects of individual personalities and therefore, not wanting to partner with them.
As is my tendency, when I’m passionate about something, I was talking too much in this conversation. When I shut up and listened to what they were saying for a few minutes, it struck me how quickly we all are to make decisions based on perceptions of people’s personalities.
So I prayed.
I really did.
And listened for guidance.
I really did.
And then I went around the room, pointing to certain individuals, naming the personality traits I had perceived in our short time together.
I said something like, “You can’t make a decision based on someone’s personality. You’re stoic, you’re a little neurotic, you’re abrasive, and I’m full of myself and I talk to much. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want to get to know you and I find value in what you have to offer our group.”
I don’t know if this was the best way to go about things. I’m still a little embarrassed by my boldness. But I do like to tell it like it is…
What I see now, as I’ve gotten to know these individuals a little better, is that these somewhat “negative” personality traits have a flip side. Mr. Stoic, is incredibly insightful and a deep thinker. Mrs. Slightly Neurotic is incredibly compassionate and thoughtful towards others. Mrs. Abrasive is refreshingly honest and open and real. I, Mrs. Full of Herself, have the confidence to put my words out there for others to read.
We can get pretty hung up on the negative.
We make rash judgements and quick decisions about people based on only one side of the coin. I want to take the time to get to know all aspects of the people I come in contact with in order to see and experience the fullness of their Value and Worth.
And I hope others will take the time to get to know the WHOLE me.